Recovery without healthy relationships only perpetuates the sinful self-obsession that led to addiction in the first place.
In recovery we must learn to shift our focus, thus becoming free to share intimacy with others.
All relationships exist on a spectrum from healthy to abusive with unhealthy somewhere in the middle.
Check out the Relationship Spectrum below to see where your relationship falls.
Some people live in homes with parents who fight a lot or abuse each other — emotionally, verbally, or physically.
For some people who have grown up around this kind of behavior it can almost seem normal or OK. Many of us learn from watching and imitating the people close to us.
But for some people, those rose-colored glasses turn into blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship isn't as healthy as it should be.
Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these qualities: A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior.
Different people define relationships in different ways.
Someone who doesn't yet have this part down may need to work on it with a trained therapist before he or she is ready for a relationship.
Meanwhile, even though you might feel bad or feel for someone who's been mistreated, you need to take care of yourself — it's not healthy to stay in a relationship that involves abusive behavior of any kind.
If you feel your relationship may be unhealthy or abusive, give us a call at 1-800-799-7233 or chat live between 7 a.m.
It's totally normal to look at the world through rose-colored glasses in the early stages of a relationship.